Ok so I’m no tiny dancer. I will not be getting out the tutu any time soon. My bottom has it’s own time zone.
That is who I am and most of the time I am OK about it and I’ll confess that’s one of the reasons I’m doing the Appalachian Trail so I can get back my 18-year-old body. I understand that it may have already gone where I can’t find it, but you can but try.
Why the fat talk? Well in the UK at the moment there is a lot of discussion about whether fatism should be made illegal. I have had my fair share of this. Just last week someone leant out of his car window (crappy little Ford Cortina so really he had a nerve) and called me a fat b***h! My reply was funny but not repeatable, also to do with his own size issues.
People look me up and down all the time as if to say, go on give the cakes a break. I have also had a few ‘really you?’ comments from people about me doing the AT. You can see them thinking, ‘don’t you think you are a little on the porky side?’
The situation where it stings the most is when people talk to me as if my extra poundage is taking up space where my brain cells should be. As if being a fatty means that you must be stupid.
I also have the extra ‘stupid’ factor because I’m top-heavy and men especially think this means that your breasts is where your brain is, being cushioned and not quite able to hear what’s going on and so they speak very loudly and slowly into them.
My solace comes from the fact that having lived my life with people treating me this way means that I am better for it. I’m stronger, I am more open-minded and I am prepared to brave things that most people wouldn’t and as a consequence I’ve seen more and experienced more than most people ever had.
So my advice to people on the receiving end of fatism is to remember that at least you are not them! They are ones who should really be pitied because they are the ones who are ignorant and as a result miss out on so many things.
Take pride in being different and give two fingers to the people who mock you for it. I guarantee your life will be more interesting than theirs.